Nicola Foster

Love, Sex and Intimacy Coach


Helping you rediscover intimacy and build a closer, happier intimate relationship


CLOSER: Rediscovering Intimacy

Online program for women and their partners who are worried
about becoming more and more disconnected and want to want each other again.

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Welcome! I'm Nicola Foster. I'm a professional Sex and Relationships Therapist and my passion is the power of intimacy to heal.

My deep wish is for women and men to create and enjoy intimate, healthy and fulfilling relationships - with each other AND with themselves. 

My favourite aspect of my work is supporting new and long-term couples to discover how they can build or deepen intimacy and trust with each other. I teach the Wheel of Consent and the practices of mindfulness and slowing down sex. I’m passionate about intimacy because when we can connect with each other safely, we feel happier, more relaxed and more able to cope with life’s challenges and ups and downs.



Every couple of weeks I send out the Making Love Letter.  It's a lively, inspiring email full of my personal recommendations, inspiration and tips.

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You've probably found this page because you're feeling that:

  • You and your partner have lost something of the 'spark' between you
  • Sex has become more boring 
  • You used to enjoy sex and would like to find desire again
  • Sex may be painful or uncomfortable
  • You have a differing level of desire to your partner 
  • You're worried that your relationship will break up once the kids leave home or before
  • You feel close to your partner but know that special closeness is missing 
  • There is an 'elephant in the room' when it comes to sex and you know you need to address it
  • You don't know how to initiate sex, or feel awkward asking for what you want
  • You find it hard to have 'difficult' conversations 
  • You don't like feeling resentful towards your partner and want to clear the air
  • You feel like your constantly being ignored or taken for granted
  • You don't know how to break the cycle you're in...
Reawaken Your Desire FREE GUIDE!
In this easy-to-print guide, I give you 10 easy to follow ways to reconnect to your libido - with exerciss  and tips 
BONUS - my carefully curated book list for desire and arousal and my Spotify playlist of great tracks for intimacy sessions.

"Nicola brings such grace and warmth to her work" SK

"Nicola's helpfulness and compassionate approach was a great support to me."  NT

The Power of Intimacy -
a blog about relationship, love, healing and intimacy.


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"Nicola is excellent at what she does.  She creates a very safe and supportive place in which to explore major life issues.” RJ


The Making Love Letters

Every couple of weeks I send out the Making Love Letter.  It's a lively, inspiring email full of my personal recommendations, inspiration and tips. Sign up here.


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"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." — Rumi.