Are you stuck in a rut? Or, are you supporting each other's dreams?
Aug 16, 2021
It's easy to lose touch with the dreams, hopes and desires we had when we were first starting out in adult life.
Then as we get older we often want to create more meaning or achieve something bigger or leave a legacy of some kind.
If you're in a long term relationship supporting each other’s dreams is key to growing as a couple and creating a more conscious relationship.
Planning together deepens your relationship, strengthens your commitment to each other, and helps you work towards a better future.
Planning together deepens your relationship, strengthens your commitment to each other, and helps you work towards a better future.
And in talking about your dreams, you’re also strengthening your communication skills. It doesn’t matter if you’re helping your partner realise a dream they have, or embarking together on a shared dream, supporting each other helps strengthen your relationship.
But sometimes the pursuit of a partner’s dream can cause fears and conflicts to rise to the surface. For example, going travelling alone or having some kind of adventurous sexual experience, for example, might be something one partner wants, but the idea may be a cause for concern for the other.
The key here is to be open with your communication, whilst also going slowly enough for you both to feel supported and listened to.
The key here is to be open with your communication, whilst also going slowly enough for you both to feel supported and listened to.
DREAM EXERCISE
A simple, fun activity you can do, to start working together to support each other’s dreams is to sit down individually and make a list of five dreams you’d like to accomplish.
Once you’ve written your list, come back together and take turns talking about each one. Then decide if each is a dream you’d like to explore together or something you’d prefer your partner support you on.
And if any dreams and desires cause fears and conflicts to arise, the best support may come from investing in some support to help you solve those challenges together - I offer couples therapy - find out more here: www.realrelating.com
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Nicola Foster
Nicola Foster
Relationship and Intimacy Therapist and Coach
Nicola is a Relationship and Intimacy Therapist and Coach - her passion is helping people create loving, healthy, sexy relationships.
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