The Power of Intimacy

A blog about the healing power of intimacy and love by Nicola Foster

Do You REALLY Know How to Touch Your Partner?

Have you gotten out of the habit of touching your partner like you used to?


Hi, I'm Nicola Foster, I'm a Sex and Relationship Therapist and I work with couples who want to reignite intimacy in their lives. In this article I share some of my recommendations on how couples can use touch to...

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Navigating Life's Crossroads: Understanding Two Choice Dilemmas

both/and couples therapy May 08, 2024
 

On this human journey of life, we often find ourselves standing at crossroads, faced with decisions that seem impossible to make. David Schnarch's concept of 'two choice dilemmas' really resonates with me. Sometimes life presents us with two paths, but we can only choose one. Whether it's...

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Unlocking the Secrets of Love with Sternberg's Triangular Theory

We talk all the time about love. But what is love when it comes to romantic relationships?  Enter Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love. I love using this powerful model to explore how 3 key components intertwine for a fulfilling love connection.

The Triangular Theory of Love

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Why I love using Polarity Mapping (or Both/And) for resolving conflicts

Conflicts are natural in any relationship, but they don't have to lead to frustration or resentment. That's where the power of polarity mapping comes in -  I love using polarity mapping to help my clients build better, healthier relationships. It helps lead to a more balanced and open...

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Voice dialogue - making friends with all the parts of you (especially the ones you don't like!)

Voice Dialogue is a way of working that I use all the time in my sessions. It’s a non-pathological modality where we talk to the different parts of ourselves to help uncover conflicting thoughts, behaviours and emotions. This enables you to create a more balanced awareness of yourself and...

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Differentiation In Couples Relationships: When one become two

Differentiation in a relationship


What is differentiation in a relationship? It’s something you absolutely need to know about and implement if you want a healthy, intimate relationship with your partner. It's about how to be connected and close to your partner whilst also being connected to...

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The 5 As of a Loving Relationship

Ask anyone to describe a loving relationship, and the answers you get will vary enormously. But some things pop up again and again.

For David Richo  in his bookHow to be an Adult in Relationships’, there are five key elements that all healthy relationships need - attention, ...

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The Developmental Model and Couples Relationships: From Dead and Boring to Expansive and Alive

There is always a tension in the relationship between enjoying freedom and creating safety. Most of us want enough space to grow and change and at the same time to keep our partner close and offer them kindness and security. How to balance the two - that's the art. I have been studying the...
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Have you got your new year priorities right? 5 preventive steps to save your relationship from decline.

At this time of year, many of us are thinking about how we can improve our weight, our house, our health,  or planning where we might go on holiday. 

But I wonder how many of us are thinking about investing time in improving our relationships?

Bottom of the list?

 

As a couples...

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Intimacy - what is it? Exploring 4 types of intimacy and how to sustain them.

4 Types of Intimacy


I call myself an intimacy coach - so I thought it would be a good idea to elaborate on the topic of intimacy and talk what intimacy is and how to sustain it.

You might think I'm euphemistically referring to sex and intercourse. But it's much more than that.

If you want to...

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