In the dance of relationships, maintaining harmony often feels like an art form. As a couple's therapist, I've witnessed how easily partners can trigger each other, leading to a cascade of emotional reactions that, if not properly managed, can spiral out of control. The key to circumventing these...

Hello, I'm Nicola Foster, a couples and sex therapist. In this article, I'm offering three practical suggestions to support couples who have noticed they feel like housemates and have lost connection with each other as lovers.

Most of us are juggling many roles.

You might be a parent, a carer for...

We talk all the time about love. But what is love when it comes to romantic relationships?  Enter Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love. I love using this powerful model to explore how 3 key components intertwine for a fulfilling love connection.

The Triangular Theory of Love

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Conflicts are natural in any relationship, but they don't have to lead to frustration or resentment. That's where the power of polarity mapping comes in -  I love using polarity mapping to help my clients build better, healthier relationships. It helps lead to a more balanced and open...

WANT TO ARGUE LESS?

How to hack the nervous system to prevent arguments escalating. When couples argue with each other, they often get into a downward spiral. So by learning how to positively co-regulate with each other we don't waste time getting lost in an argument.

So what are 4 tips...

How are you at asking for what you want in bed?

If you want a satisfying sex life, it’s so important to be able to be able to say what you DO and DON’T want. And it’s equally vital that you and your partner can listen to each other’s needs and give and ask for feedback.

But...

Mismatched desire is something many couples face in a relationship. When we are first together - hormones and novelty mean that we can often hardly keep our hands off each other. Desire can ebb and flow throughout a relationship, but when one person consistently wants sex more than the other, it...

At this time of year, many of us are thinking about how we can improve our weight, our house, our health,  or planning where we might go on holiday. 

But I wonder how many of us are thinking about investing time in improving our relationships?

Bottom of the list?

As a couples...