The Power of Intimacy

A blog about the healing power of intimacy and love by Nicola Foster

4 Essential Tips for Positive Co-Regulation in Relationships

 

In the dance of relationships, maintaining harmony often feels like an art form. As a couple's therapist, I've witnessed how easily partners can trigger each other, leading to a cascade of emotional reactions that, if not properly managed, can spiral out of control. The key to circumventing these...

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How to be more like lovers than housemates.

Hello, I'm Nicola Foster, a couples and sex therapist. In this article, I'm offering three practical suggestions to support couples who have noticed they feel like housemates and have lost connection with each other as lovers.

Most of us are juggling many roles.

You might be a parent, a carer for...

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Unlocking the Secrets of Love with Sternberg's Triangular Theory

We talk all the time about love. But what is love when it comes to romantic relationships?  Enter Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love. I love using this powerful model to explore how 3 key components intertwine for a fulfilling love connection.

The Triangular Theory of Love

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Why I love using Polarity Mapping (or Both/And) for resolving conflicts

Conflicts are natural in any relationship, but they don't have to lead to frustration or resentment. That's where the power of polarity mapping comes in -  I love using polarity mapping to help my clients build better, healthier relationships. It helps lead to a more balanced and open...

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WANT TO ARGUE LESS? Using Co-Regulation for Couples

WANT TO ARGUE LESS?

How to hack the nervous system to prevent arguments escalating. When couples argue with each other, they often get into a downward spiral. So by learning how to positively co-regulate with each other we don't waste time getting lost in an argument.

 

So what are 4 tips...

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How to ask for what you want in bed - introducing the Bossy Massage

How are you at asking for what you want in bed?

If you want a satisfying sex life, it’s so important to be able to be able to say what you DO and DON’T want. And it’s equally vital that you and your partner can listen to each other’s needs and give and ask for feedback.

But...

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How to talk about Sex

communication sex life Mar 03, 2022
 
Communication is the cornerstone of any good relationship. And that’s no different when it comes to your love life. Many couples find it more awkward to talk about sex than to have sex! But if you don’t talk about sex, it becomes the 'elephant in the room'. It may be an awkward...
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What is Mismatched Desire?

Mismatched desire is something many couples face in a relationship. When we are first together - hormones and novelty mean that we can often hardly keep our hands off each other. Desire can ebb and flow throughout a relationship, but when one person consistently wants sex more than the other, it...

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Have you got your new year priorities right? 5 preventive steps to save your relationship from decline.

At this time of year, many of us are thinking about how we can improve our weight, our house, our health,  or planning where we might go on holiday. 

But I wonder how many of us are thinking about investing time in improving our relationships?

Bottom of the list?

 

As a couples...

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Are you stuck in a rut? Or, are you supporting each other's dreams?

It's easy to lose touch with the dreams, hopes and desires we had when we were first starting out in adult life.

Then as we get older we often want to create more meaning or achieve something bigger or leave a legacy of some kind.

If you're in a long term relationship supporting each...
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