The Power of Intimacy

We talk all the time about love. But what is love when it comes to romantic relationships?  Enter Robert Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love. I love using this powerful model to explore how 3 key components intertwine for a fulfilling love connection.

The Triangular Theory of Love

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How are you at asking for what you want in bed?

If you want a satisfying sex life, it’s so important to be able to be able to say what you DO and DON’T want. And it’s equally vital that you and your partner can listen to each other’s needs and give and ask for feedback.

But...

Jack Morin and The Erotic Mind

What drives sexual desire? What turns us on? And what happens after we get our happy ever after?

These are all topics sex therapist Dr Jack Morin explores in his book ‘The Erotic Mind’. For many couples, sexual desire simmers down when they become...

The Wheel of Consent

The Wheel of Consent is a practice of taking and receiving, giving and allowing. The Wheel is a model from sexologist and intimacy coach Betty Martin. I think I first came across it at a festival several years ago and I have been recommending it my work ever since. The reason...

Ask anyone to describe a loving relationship, and the answers you get will vary enormously. But some things pop up again and again.

For David Richo  in his book ‘How to be an Adult in Relationships’, there are five key elements that all healthy relationships need - attention, ...

There are so many different types of sex, quickies, solo pleasuring, power and dominance and making love. The one I love most to talk about, especially with couples in midlife - is slow sex.  Going slow means not just focusing on an end goal but on bringing greater consciousness, awareness...

Brakes and accelerators aren’t words that you’d typically hear in everyday conversations about arousal. But if you’re looking to figure out your libido, learning about what turns you on and off is crucial. How you respond to sex isn’t just down to your hormones or mood -...

4 Types of Intimacy

I call myself an intimacy coach - so I thought it would be a good idea to elaborate on the topic of intimacy and talk what intimacy is and how to sustain it.

You might think I'm euphemistically referring to sex and intercourse. But it's much more than that.

If you want to...

Sex and mindfulness

Sex and perimenopause

I'm loving how much media coverage we are seeing around menopause and perimenopause right now. I was very lucky to have many women friends a few years older than me - leading the way, sharing their learnings. Although, like many other women I often felt disenfranchised,...